There are all sorts of situations that pertain to parenting which can be everything from embarrassing to ridiculously funny. Frustration and anger are already a given so there's no need to mention them. When it comes to children it's completely accurate because they can be brutal when telling the truth even if they don't realize it. That's one of the excellent parts of being surrounded by kids and raising them.
The ongoing banter that goes on with parents and their teens when it comes to trusting them and allowing them to do new things will never end. We tend to feel that many parents genuinely want to trust their children. Perhaps a lot of them do trust their kids or think that they do. Yes, it makes a huge difference when young adults feel that they can be trusted. The main thing that parents will do is bestow trust with the intent of seeing what will take place. Then they just sit back and wait for their teens to make the right choices. Many times this is all that a parent can do. Basically, if you trust them, then you only have one choice.
Kids can be like lovable weasels. I'm making this comparison because once you've asked them or told them to do something, they will wiggle and struggle and basically do anything just to avoid doing what you want. But those are the precise times when you need to stand your ground, firmly. Your child will only consider the negative implications that he or she will find painful and not the reasons behind your decision, since you are the only one who really knows why you did what you had to do. And you know very well that it only takes you giving in once for all your future decisions to be tested constantly.
You can't change your decision, thereby letting the child win. It's also a good idea to show your child that no matter how hard they try, they won't get away with it. Was there ever a situation in your young life when your parents, or parent, let you do something knowing full well the outcome would be unpleasant? You can understand and appreciate that you were being taught a harsh lesson. However, it's probably a lesson you never forgot. These decisions are judgment calls you will have to make, and of course they are situation specific. While making their own decisions is a valuable lesson kids to learn, you need to make sure not to do it if the consequences are to o big.
You can love your teens by giving them more work to do around the house. Of course, we are addressing the years near and in the teenage years. Chances are that both parents are working outside the home and single parents have to resort to this to get help around the house. But we mentioned this because teenagers should realize that their help is needed within the home. Yes, the home team could use a little help. You should let them see what you are doing and what you expect them to get out of it. People have a much greater tendency toward cooperation if they are given the reason why and it makes sense to them.
We think that you will find parenting a lot easier if you can communicate effectively with your teens. Of course this assumes they are old enough to understand.
The ongoing banter that goes on with parents and their teens when it comes to trusting them and allowing them to do new things will never end. We tend to feel that many parents genuinely want to trust their children. Perhaps a lot of them do trust their kids or think that they do. Yes, it makes a huge difference when young adults feel that they can be trusted. The main thing that parents will do is bestow trust with the intent of seeing what will take place. Then they just sit back and wait for their teens to make the right choices. Many times this is all that a parent can do. Basically, if you trust them, then you only have one choice.
Kids can be like lovable weasels. I'm making this comparison because once you've asked them or told them to do something, they will wiggle and struggle and basically do anything just to avoid doing what you want. But those are the precise times when you need to stand your ground, firmly. Your child will only consider the negative implications that he or she will find painful and not the reasons behind your decision, since you are the only one who really knows why you did what you had to do. And you know very well that it only takes you giving in once for all your future decisions to be tested constantly.
You can't change your decision, thereby letting the child win. It's also a good idea to show your child that no matter how hard they try, they won't get away with it. Was there ever a situation in your young life when your parents, or parent, let you do something knowing full well the outcome would be unpleasant? You can understand and appreciate that you were being taught a harsh lesson. However, it's probably a lesson you never forgot. These decisions are judgment calls you will have to make, and of course they are situation specific. While making their own decisions is a valuable lesson kids to learn, you need to make sure not to do it if the consequences are to o big.
You can love your teens by giving them more work to do around the house. Of course, we are addressing the years near and in the teenage years. Chances are that both parents are working outside the home and single parents have to resort to this to get help around the house. But we mentioned this because teenagers should realize that their help is needed within the home. Yes, the home team could use a little help. You should let them see what you are doing and what you expect them to get out of it. People have a much greater tendency toward cooperation if they are given the reason why and it makes sense to them.
We think that you will find parenting a lot easier if you can communicate effectively with your teens. Of course this assumes they are old enough to understand.
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