Due to a lack of energy from the brutal Winter months, for the initial couple of weeks of Spring, I was uncharacteristically slacking on the upkeep of my looks. I figured that I looked good enough to suffice for my romantic goals. I was acquiring tail and I still looked much better compared to most of my competitors. What could go wrong?
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
This means if you resemble an East Asian, you need to look good or you run the risk of running into denial. Various other foreigners will certainly have a bit even more leeway to work their game given that an overseas face will initially delay Japanese females' automated filters. But, speaking from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is minimal for most. Foreigners are require to look excellent to obtain Japanese women as well. Evident schlubs are turned down outright regardless of their skin tone and the white dude in the club with running shoes and cargo pants is still going the home with his hand.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
The bottom line: If you're an Asian guy looking for love in Japan, make sure your look is fresh and your fitness is top notch.
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
Once more, these adjustments to my results weren't planet smashing, however they were very recognizable. I presumed it was merely another application of the "be attractive" adage, but a peculiar theory occurred to me as I was doing some girl spotting with a few buds in the posh Omotesando area.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
This means if you resemble an East Asian, you need to look good or you run the risk of running into denial. Various other foreigners will certainly have a bit even more leeway to work their game given that an overseas face will initially delay Japanese females' automated filters. But, speaking from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is minimal for most. Foreigners are require to look excellent to obtain Japanese women as well. Evident schlubs are turned down outright regardless of their skin tone and the white dude in the club with running shoes and cargo pants is still going the home with his hand.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
The bottom line: If you're an Asian guy looking for love in Japan, make sure your look is fresh and your fitness is top notch.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com
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