Each one of my first five children, as babies, threw temper tantrums. When my fifth baby was fourteen months old, I discovered what I needed to change in my parenting style in order to prevent any further temper tantrums from him. He was forever free of temper tantrums within about a week. After that I used my new-found techniques with the last eight of my children, from birth on. None of them ever threw a tantrum-not even the two that had ADHD, one of which was also Oppositional Defiant. When she turned nineteen she made the statement, "I was always an extremely defiant child, but, throughout all the years my mother and I vied over who was going to be in charge, I always absolutely loved how she responded to my anger."
When I assist other parents to totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, I first let them know the difference there is temper tantrums. Some are Type-One, and some Type-Two. It's important to know the difference between the two because in preventing and eliminating them, Type-Two tantrums require additional parenting techniques over and above what is basically needed for both of them.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
Type-Two tantrums are expressions of anger (that could be genuine, unexaggerated, exaggerated, or potentially even totally fake) combined with conscious and deliberate attempts at intimidating or manipulating. These kinds of temper tantrums occur when children don't get what they want.
Advice from temper tantrum "experts" has historically included a certain amount of "ignore the child's tantrums." This was the faulty advice given to me that I steadfastly followed when I initially parented my first five children. I ultimately learned, after I was able to eliminate the tantrums of my fifth baby, that the practice of ignoring tantrums was part of what was causing them. In fact, my belief is that ignoring temper tantrums almost guarantees their recurrence. Of course, there are many other factors in total elimination and total prevention of temper tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These other factors are elaborated on in my presentation of my methods, which I have named, "Infant Anger Management." But it begins with the parents ending their own ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
When I assist other parents to totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, I first let them know the difference there is temper tantrums. Some are Type-One, and some Type-Two. It's important to know the difference between the two because in preventing and eliminating them, Type-Two tantrums require additional parenting techniques over and above what is basically needed for both of them.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
Type-Two tantrums are expressions of anger (that could be genuine, unexaggerated, exaggerated, or potentially even totally fake) combined with conscious and deliberate attempts at intimidating or manipulating. These kinds of temper tantrums occur when children don't get what they want.
Advice from temper tantrum "experts" has historically included a certain amount of "ignore the child's tantrums." This was the faulty advice given to me that I steadfastly followed when I initially parented my first five children. I ultimately learned, after I was able to eliminate the tantrums of my fifth baby, that the practice of ignoring tantrums was part of what was causing them. In fact, my belief is that ignoring temper tantrums almost guarantees their recurrence. Of course, there are many other factors in total elimination and total prevention of temper tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These other factors are elaborated on in my presentation of my methods, which I have named, "Infant Anger Management." But it begins with the parents ending their own ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
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Learn more about the two types of temper tantrums.Eliminate tantrums . Visit Leanna Rae Scott's site to learn how to prevent temper tantrums.. Also published at The Two Kinds Of Temper Tantrums Are Type-One And Type-Two.
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