I:0:T Most parenting "experts," which means people who got that way from university attendance and not so much from having kids, inform us that babies less than six months or one year old aren't able to feel real anger. These "experts" view newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that babies, even when they sound angry, aren't. They're apparently just in primal communication mode, or something. I'm not sure what such parenting professionals think begins to happen to infants at the magical age of six months or one year allowing them to actually be angry when they sound angry. But I do know that I disagree with such a concept.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific proof for theories that all children throw tantrums or that tantrums are a normal part of children's development. Also, there are many false theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, including brain chemicals! The most common cause theories, however, are children's: lack of problem-solving skills, low tolerance for frustration, lack of communication abilities, need for attention, and lack of ways to let out emotions. None of these are causes of tantrums. But they are causes of pre-tantrum anger, which, if responded to appropriately by parents, dissipates easily without leading to tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to such anger generally develop patience and do not escalate with their anger.
Responding properly to infants' and children's pre-tantrum anger is the first step of "Infant Anger Management." I tell parents everything they need to understand in being able to totally prevent and totally eliminate temper tantrums in their children, even if they have ADHD, ADD, or ODD.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific proof for theories that all children throw tantrums or that tantrums are a normal part of children's development. Also, there are many false theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, including brain chemicals! The most common cause theories, however, are children's: lack of problem-solving skills, low tolerance for frustration, lack of communication abilities, need for attention, and lack of ways to let out emotions. None of these are causes of tantrums. But they are causes of pre-tantrum anger, which, if responded to appropriately by parents, dissipates easily without leading to tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to such anger generally develop patience and do not escalate with their anger.
Responding properly to infants' and children's pre-tantrum anger is the first step of "Infant Anger Management." I tell parents everything they need to understand in being able to totally prevent and totally eliminate temper tantrums in their children, even if they have ADHD, ADD, or ODD.
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