Being patient when trying to get back together with your girlfriend is difficult. There's no question about it. You worry that someone else is going to come along and scoop her up, if that isn't the case already. You worry that she's going to forget about you. You worry that she's going to get used to living her life without you. But even more, you just worry that the window of opportunity is closing so you're frantic to find a solution to your problem and get her back as soon as possible.
Most men will admit that after a breakup they become more than a little emotional. Even the strongest of us become fearful and anxious when the woman we love rejects us. We become jealous of any guy that comes near her and anxious that she will get into another relationship and forget about us. These emotions and a lack of patience cause us to do sometimes drastic things to shorten the amount of time that it might take to win our ex back. We become desperate due to our fear of loss and we wind up doing things to further destroy our relationship with the one we love.
For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
You might honestly believe that these methods will help you to get back together with your girlfriend but, as you see, these are the typical methods that most guys try when they are frantic to get a girl back. Your instincts are telling you to do all of these things but it is fear that is your motivation. It is that feeling of loss that is making you act desperately. You aren't thinking right and your emotions are controlling you. You need to relax, put yourself in her position and understand where she is coming from. You need to understand what it is that drives a woman to fall in love and what she needs to feel in order to want to get back together with you.
A real plan to get your girlfriend back should be based upon female psychology and what a woman needs to feel in order to overcome the biggest hurdle that confronts you right now which is the fact that she broke up with you. She has told all of her friends and family that she is done with you. That is going to be a big obstacle to overcome so you're going to have to speak to her emotions. Her decision is going to have to be an emotional one. She is going to have to want you more than she might be embarrassed to tell everyone that she is getting back together with you.
Understanding your girlfriend's emotions and basing your actions upon making her feel the emotions necessary for her to fall in love with you again is the route that you should take. While this might sound simple or easy, it's your emotional state that is getting in your way. You actually care too much at the moment. You are so fearful of losing her for good that you aren't being yourself. If you could step back and not care so much then you would realize that getting her back isn't really all that difficult. If you can, try not to care so much. Try not to worry so much and you will begin to understand your ex-girlfriend and how she is feeling about you right now.
Most men will admit that after a breakup they become more than a little emotional. Even the strongest of us become fearful and anxious when the woman we love rejects us. We become jealous of any guy that comes near her and anxious that she will get into another relationship and forget about us. These emotions and a lack of patience cause us to do sometimes drastic things to shorten the amount of time that it might take to win our ex back. We become desperate due to our fear of loss and we wind up doing things to further destroy our relationship with the one we love.
For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
You might honestly believe that these methods will help you to get back together with your girlfriend but, as you see, these are the typical methods that most guys try when they are frantic to get a girl back. Your instincts are telling you to do all of these things but it is fear that is your motivation. It is that feeling of loss that is making you act desperately. You aren't thinking right and your emotions are controlling you. You need to relax, put yourself in her position and understand where she is coming from. You need to understand what it is that drives a woman to fall in love and what she needs to feel in order to want to get back together with you.
A real plan to get your girlfriend back should be based upon female psychology and what a woman needs to feel in order to overcome the biggest hurdle that confronts you right now which is the fact that she broke up with you. She has told all of her friends and family that she is done with you. That is going to be a big obstacle to overcome so you're going to have to speak to her emotions. Her decision is going to have to be an emotional one. She is going to have to want you more than she might be embarrassed to tell everyone that she is getting back together with you.
Understanding your girlfriend's emotions and basing your actions upon making her feel the emotions necessary for her to fall in love with you again is the route that you should take. While this might sound simple or easy, it's your emotional state that is getting in your way. You actually care too much at the moment. You are so fearful of losing her for good that you aren't being yourself. If you could step back and not care so much then you would realize that getting her back isn't really all that difficult. If you can, try not to care so much. Try not to worry so much and you will begin to understand your ex-girlfriend and how she is feeling about you right now.
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