Most average looking guys have great difficulty meeting women because they feel self-conscious and build up a lot of anxiety when they have to go over and speak to them. Attractiveness is a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you don't expect women to like you, chances are they won't!
Okay so first things first. Kick that loser out of your head and just relax. It's just a woman after all. Stand up straight and be friendly and smile. Don't sweat it if she brushes you off, seriously. It's all an experiment anyway, right? So see how far into a conversation you can get with a woman before she loses interest, IF she loses interest. This is all about the learning curve, so it doesn't matter if the first woman you talk to blows you off. Just try again.
Why do you automatically presume that she is better than you, or even a nice person at all? Go over there and just be curious to find out more about the person you have in front of you. Don't base your self-esteem on the reaction women have to you in clubs, they don't know you at all! When an interaction happens, it could be that you will not get the response you were hoping for, but maybe you have learned something new about yourself, about women or about male-female interaction on the whole.
The truth is that if you totally shift your focus about what you are after, your anxiety will be greatly lessened and chances are you really will make a good impression. Women sense anxiety a mile off but if you come across as being simply relaxed and curious, they will be a lot more open to speaking to you.
Once again, and this is actually important, do not attempt to engage in conversation with a woman by doing the boring chit chat thing. Steer clear of topics like weather, sport, the news, religion and definitely sex and exes. Not only will this be the equivalent of a dash of ice water down her back, but also a complete shutdown emotionally on her part, with zero success at resuscitation on your part. If possible, quietly, and unobtrusively, listen to her talking to her fiends if she has any around at the function, party, whatever. Listen and learn about what women talk about and really get passionate about (emotion again) when talking amongst themselves, will give you an edge and the perfect way to actually get in there and talk to her without feeling like a complete moron. This will more than likely open the door for you to ask for her number, and get it!
Once you have her number, you more than likely are assured of at least one date, maybe two. Score one for the average looking dude! Seriously though, that's a step in the right direction and directly into a few more dates with a few more ladies. It's awesome practice, so keep at it. Now then once you have her number, what the hell are you supposed to do now? Call? If so, when? Text her? All or none of the above? Good question. There is no right or wrong answer, because every woman is different. Start with a call a couple days later and set up a date. Once you have accomplished that, start texting her. Be nice and keep it clean or you will blow it. You need to get to know her a lot better before you start sending her what you think are sexy texts. You really should know what makes her hot before going down that road!
Another thing that women shy away from is neediness. If you appear needy you will be the opposite of the alpha male she is looking for. You are "allowed" to show vulnerability but she wants to see that you already have established control over your weaker areas. What women don't want is a puppy dog. Puppy dogs end up in the friend zone as they are incredibly sweet but just don't get your heart racing!
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
Okay so first things first. Kick that loser out of your head and just relax. It's just a woman after all. Stand up straight and be friendly and smile. Don't sweat it if she brushes you off, seriously. It's all an experiment anyway, right? So see how far into a conversation you can get with a woman before she loses interest, IF she loses interest. This is all about the learning curve, so it doesn't matter if the first woman you talk to blows you off. Just try again.
Why do you automatically presume that she is better than you, or even a nice person at all? Go over there and just be curious to find out more about the person you have in front of you. Don't base your self-esteem on the reaction women have to you in clubs, they don't know you at all! When an interaction happens, it could be that you will not get the response you were hoping for, but maybe you have learned something new about yourself, about women or about male-female interaction on the whole.
The truth is that if you totally shift your focus about what you are after, your anxiety will be greatly lessened and chances are you really will make a good impression. Women sense anxiety a mile off but if you come across as being simply relaxed and curious, they will be a lot more open to speaking to you.
Once again, and this is actually important, do not attempt to engage in conversation with a woman by doing the boring chit chat thing. Steer clear of topics like weather, sport, the news, religion and definitely sex and exes. Not only will this be the equivalent of a dash of ice water down her back, but also a complete shutdown emotionally on her part, with zero success at resuscitation on your part. If possible, quietly, and unobtrusively, listen to her talking to her fiends if she has any around at the function, party, whatever. Listen and learn about what women talk about and really get passionate about (emotion again) when talking amongst themselves, will give you an edge and the perfect way to actually get in there and talk to her without feeling like a complete moron. This will more than likely open the door for you to ask for her number, and get it!
Once you have her number, you more than likely are assured of at least one date, maybe two. Score one for the average looking dude! Seriously though, that's a step in the right direction and directly into a few more dates with a few more ladies. It's awesome practice, so keep at it. Now then once you have her number, what the hell are you supposed to do now? Call? If so, when? Text her? All or none of the above? Good question. There is no right or wrong answer, because every woman is different. Start with a call a couple days later and set up a date. Once you have accomplished that, start texting her. Be nice and keep it clean or you will blow it. You need to get to know her a lot better before you start sending her what you think are sexy texts. You really should know what makes her hot before going down that road!
Another thing that women shy away from is neediness. If you appear needy you will be the opposite of the alpha male she is looking for. You are "allowed" to show vulnerability but she wants to see that you already have established control over your weaker areas. What women don't want is a puppy dog. Puppy dogs end up in the friend zone as they are incredibly sweet but just don't get your heart racing!
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
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